I’ve seen this list floating around on Facebook and Twitter lately and it’s not as great as the comments and status updates would make it seem.
The list does cover some good things, indicating that women should not be given a separate set of expectations than men concerning their sexual partners, bodily functions or financial and social independence.
One of the more interesting points was not having to apologize for “not liking children,” however, that seemed like less of a feminist point and more of a point regarding the acceptance of someone’s personality and/or preferences.
Now, what I didn’t necessarily agree with was the middle finger photo used as the featured image. To me, this identified with a very aggressive and angry assertion of independence or not caring.
Instead of an image that portrayed the article from an informed and passionate point of view, the selected image made the text seem brash and uninformed. Though the piece was conversational and well written, the image misconstrued the content before I even started reading.
Additionally, a few of the items mentioned on the list could have been excluded, such as the apology for “bra cup sizes,” “painting our faces,” “being type-a,” “Eating healthy” and “eating too much.” To me, most of these issues can be solved with self-confidence.
Though self-confidence isn’t as easily drawn from as I’ve implied, feeling self-conscious about elements of your personality, the makeup you’re wearing or your diet is not solely to blame on the statements made by those around you. Though other people’s opinions may be present, they’ll only affect you as much as you let them.
I would really like to see a list like this from the male perspective. It would be interesting to see what men think they shouldn’t have to “apologize for” or what unrealistic expectations they feel they’re suffering under.
Let me know what you think in the comments below, or send me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org .